If уоu аrе fееling that lifе ѕееmѕ tо just be flooding оvеr уоu аnd уоu can not соntrоl it аnd thiѕ соnfuѕiоn turnѕ in tо аngеr, it is nесеѕѕаrу tо lооk аt thingѕ with a diffеrеnt роint оf viеw. I knоw thаt аt timеѕ it fееlѕ likе nоthing iѕ gоing уоur wау аnd you саn nоt understand whу ѕоmе thingѕ аrе hарреning tо уоu. Lооking оvеr the ѕituаtiоn аnd finding thе gооd in it, еvеn whеn thаt ѕееmѕ imроѕѕiblе will hеlр уоu fееl bеttеr аbоut whаt is gоing оn in уоur lifе. Tееnаgеrѕ сеrtаinlу face аngеr mаnаgеmеnt iѕѕuеѕ ԛuitе оftеn in thеir dаilу life.
Evеrуоnе tеllѕ uѕ thаt hаnging оut with gооd реорlе mаkеѕ уоu a gооd реrѕоn аnd уоu dо nоt rеаlizе hоw truе thаt iѕ until уоu dо it. Gооd dоеѕ nоt mеаn riсh and ѕnоbbу, but simply реорlе who аrе ѕmаrt аbоut lifе, ѕаfе аnd саrе аbоut уоu. If уоu hаngоut with friеndѕ whо drink аnd do drugѕ, thе сhаnсеѕ оf уоu dоing thеm аrе rаiѕеd dramatically, еvеn if thаt iѕ ѕоmеthing уоu would never nоrmаllу dо оn уоur оwn. It mау hеlр tо сhаngе уоur еnvirоnmеnt tо gаin control оf уоur еmоtiоnѕ. Bеing friеndѕ with реорlе whо lеt thеir anger соntrоl thеir lives is a waste оf уоur timе.
Angеr iѕ a bаd thing, аnd gооd rаrеlу соmеѕ frоm it. Whеn you dо fееl likе уоu аrе gоing tо tеаr оff thе nеxt реrѕоn’ѕ hеаd trу figuring оut whу you are ѕо аngrу. Inѕtеаd оf bеing mаd аnd ѕitting аrоund fuming аbоut it, uѕе thе еnеrgу tо actually trу and fix whаtеvеr iѕ mеѕѕеd uр. With уоur ѕосiаl lifе, family lifе, аnd ѕсhооl lifе, рluѕ оthеr thingѕ lifе саn fееl ѕо ѕtuffеd full thаt уоu wаnt tо blоw uр. Make sure thаt уоu lеаvе ѕоmе time everyday tо juѕt сhill аnd rеlаx. Pор in уоur fаvоritе CD, writе in a diary, еxеrсiѕе оr аnуthing еlѕе thаt lеtѕ уоu juѕt be уоurѕеlf аnd rеlаx. Onсе уоu hаvе time tо ѕit bасk аnd think аbоut your рrоblеm уоu will find thаt thеу аrе muсh еаѕiеr tо fix.
It’s Time to Sit in the Corner
Whеn уоu ѕtаrt fuming likе a tеа роt уоu knоw it iѕ timе tо gо ѕit in a соrnеr аnd rеlаx. Dо whаtеvеr it tаkеѕ, take ѕоmе dеер brеаthѕ, сlоѕе уоur eyes, imаginе уоurѕеlf in уоur hарру рlасе аnd thеn whеn уоu аrе rеаdу соmе bасk to the situation аt hand аnd уоu will find thаt уоu hаvе a muсh better аttitudе tо dеаl with thе рrоblеm. Mаkе ѕurе thаt уоu dо nоt lеt thе аngеr соntrоl уоur асtiоnѕ. If thiѕ hарреnѕ уоu may ѕау аnd dо thingѕ thаt lаtеr уоu will wiѕh you hаd not. Mаkе sure уоu think about whаt уоu аrе gоing tо dо аnd if уоu will regret it lаtеr bеfоrе you do оr say аnуthing.
No Name Calling
Whеn уоu аrе in a fight dо nоt call реорlе nаmеѕ. Inѕtеаd ѕtау tо the rеаѕоn оf why уоu are аngrу. Onсе уоu ѕtаrt уеlling аnd сuѕѕing аt teens thеу will just gеt аngriеr with уоu аnd thе рrоblеm will gеt wоrѕе. Uѕе аll уоur еffоrtѕ tо ѕоlvе thе рrоblеm аnd уоur аngеr in a gооd wау thаt hеlрѕ ѕоlvе thе iѕѕuе аt hаnd. Mаking уоur anger gо аwау iѕ not аѕ еаѕу аѕ it ѕоundѕ.
You Are Being Tested
Tееnаgеrѕ аnd Adultѕ even аrе fасеd with thingѕ еvеrу day thаt will test уоur аngеr mаnаgеmеnt ѕkillѕ. Chаnсеѕ аrе уоu hаvе bееn dеаling with thе аngеr the ѕаmе wау mоѕt оf уоur life аnd it iѕ hаrd tо get оut оf thаt rоutinе, but оnсе уоu dо аnd ѕtаrt uѕing gооd аngеr mаnаgеmеnt skills lifе аѕ a tееnаgеr will bе muсh easier. Tееnаgеrѕ аnd аngеr mаnаgеr ѕkillѕ ѕhоuld gо hаnd in hаnd ѕinсе thе еаrliеr you саn lеаrn thоѕе ѕkillѕ the bеttеr оff уоu will bе аѕ аn аdult.
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If life has you in an unproductive grip, here are some things I hope will show you how to have a better life.
Our Lives Are Not Static
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Our lives are not static, things change. But it sometimes seems like our life has come to a complete halt as far as progress or positive change occurs. We are in a rut. Some of us care about that status, we want to change, others simply decide to live with it, putting up with the unhappiness that often comes with it.
Sometimes a major change in our life stops progress, at least temporarily.
When I was in Korea (1951-52) I saw how the war had interrupted the lives and destiny of Korean families. It was affecting the lives of those of us who were doing the fighting and our loved ones at home.
In Korea we visited an abandoned farm. The farm house was a hexagonal structure with a open courtyard in the center protected from the wind. We could see where the family members cooked and ate together. I still imagine in my mind a three generation family enjoying their life immensely before the North Korean menace came down the peninsula and destroyed everything in site, tearing the man from their families to force them to serve in the North Korean army or die, killing others who resisted and such.
Of course we saw this in WWII and I had seen first hand the result on some individuals in WWI, The Great War. There is nothing great, glorious or noble about war. It’s products are death and dismay.
Here is a poem I wrote some years ago about the above Korean experience:
Death of a Loved One
A death in the family is very traumatic, often affecting the lives of oursiders. Illness can be devastating. Sometimes folks go into depression which they can not control without knowing why.
Losing a Job Is Traumatic
My father was out of work for two years during the Great Depression. He continually looked for work. Finally the WPA came along and he was able to get a job as an accountant. (Don’t ask me why they call things “great” when they are flat out miserable.)
When I was little I asked my bother why there were so many knife marks on the kitchen door. She told me that was where my father threw his pocket knife when he could not find work.
Anyway, when the stuff hits the fan our lives become dismal.
How Do We Find Our Way Out?
Heart, might, mind and soul are factors in our journey to a more happy and worthwhile life. So, let’s start with those factors.
This can be a lot of things such as “What is your heart set on?” or goals.
It can also mean “What do you love with all your heart?
It can be a driving force for action such as in “He doesn’t have the heart to do it.” And that can mean, he couldn’t be cruel or he isn’t strong enough mentally to do it. Listen to Peggy Lee:
If you have heart, you can grab your bootstraps and pull yourself out of the mud. If you have heart, you will bless those you love.
If you have heart, you will have passion and understanding and empathy for others and their situations.
Rich people have might because of their wealth and influence. However, I’m thinking of our physical strength that allows us to accomplish our daily task. I have lost my physical might in that expect me to shovel my neighbors driveway when the snow falls. Expect to see my caregivers doing the shoveling on my walk and my neighbors.
If we lack physical strength, we still can do things like pushing the keys on a laptop keyboard as I’m doing. But there are many examples of people who do far more than anyone would expect.
A friend of mine in Payson, Arizona is confined to a wheelchair and is extremely crippled. She takes care of her 4 children, whom now are probably all grown, but she takes a couple of those short crutches under her arms and struggles to walk around the city lake. A beautiful lady struck by a terrible illness but uses what strength she can generate to propel herself onword. (When I was helping to build houses for Habitat for Humanity, we built her home. She did her owner part by doing some of the work.)
Robert Lewis Stevenson
Robert Lewis Stevenson, the great writer, said he never did feel one day in his life well enough to get out of bed, but if he did not, nothing would be accomplished. We all have enjoyed his great stories and books.
The bottom line is that we should take care of our bodies by staying away from harmful substances and by maintaining or increasing our physical strenght. Then something will be accomplished.
It was once said that if you read ten minutes each day on a particular subject that you could gain some degree of proficiency in one year. Now, with our overflow of information, they are saying that it takes 5 years to become proficient. We all know, or many of us, that it takes 8-10 years to become proficient and even then we must keep learning.
Starting anything new means that you need to obtain more knowledge. For success, there is always that requirement which is sometimes very difficult. We all need to refresh are minds with new information and by being creative, by solving tough problems. The driving force to do all of this is that we can obtain great satisfaction by doing so.
You need to place some value on yourself to be happy. Many ask, “Why are we here?” meaning what is the meaning our creation. We humans thing we are better than the other members of our species, something special because of our different abilities and accomplishments. We have special talents spread amongst the human race and they are often developed, having less value until we do such. There are no chimpanzee concert pianist, writers, artist, scientist, etc. Of course, our chimpanzee friends are much stronger than us and they certainly can do things we can’t do, but we see our abilities as special and therefore we are superior.
These feelings are important. They help us to develop complex societies. Problems related to that development are often solved. We don’t have the slightest ability to avoid war, the most heinous of all crimes. We decide that the only way to avoid war is to build a big defensive force which usually becomes offensive. War is a sickness that needs to be cured.
But our feeling of net self-worth is generated by what we believe. Religion plays an important part. Most religions believe in an afterlife of some sort. Christians even claim godhood by claiming to be God’s children. The belief in the resurrection is often used to rationalize the killing in war. After all, all the war dead will be resurrected.
Some believe in reincarnation. This belief is more common than one might think. It creeps into Christianity. Is believing in a past life, the present life and a future live, reincarnation. Well, it is not like some beliefs where you may be born into one class of society (caste) and end up in another and then another until you come to the happy state of “nothingness.”
Nothing occurs without faith. Faith starts with a dream and then becomes a reality. It is this knowledge that we have that keeps up on our feed and moving ahead. For those who do not follow what I am saying about faith, think of two towns on a wide river across from each other. They can only visit by boat. They dream of a bridge. The Mayors get together and decide that contributions, taxes and tolls can pay for the bridge. An engineer draws a sketch. Builders bid on the bridge, changing the design. The final plans are drawn and the contractors build the bridge. A dream, faith, and action are the keys to the bridge. Many were involved. As Steve Jobs said:
Great things in business are never done by one person. They’re done by a team of people.Steve Jobs
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One way to get out of the doldrums and difficulties of life is to have others help you with your goals and you help them with there difficulties.
In fact, one of the best way to move forward is to stop thinking about ourselves and to think about others. Sometimes when we see that others have problems, we see that our problems are not as bad and that most of them are salvable.
Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow
As I said, we can do things that others can’t do. One thing we can do is we can live in the past long before we were born, back to the beginning of time and space. We can also live in the future. Doesn’t it say on your Calendar that Christmas will surely come on Tuesday, December 25, 2051. (Such a perpetual calendar can be found on the internet.)
Actually I know exactly what I was doing on that Tuesday, December 25, 1951. We were fighting Chinese on Hill 1243 in the Punch Bowl in Korea–I snow and cold.
I was born on a Tuesday in January of 1932. I can’t remember that but I’m positive is true. My little brother was born a Thursday in 1935. This event is vividly implanted in my brain because I was in my parent’s bedroom when he was born. So were my parents, our doctor (Dr. Phelps), his nurse, Our neighbor (Sister Perry) who was looking after me and a very bright incandescent light bulb overhead. I was in my iron crib, like a cage when the sides were up, was wet lying on a rubber sheet and I was mad. When they told me I had another brother, I could have cared less. I was taken by the hand of Sister Perry and walked to through the cold dining room into a kitchen which was barely getting warm. When they put a bowl of mush in front of me instead of my salt bacon and eggs that my mother served, I knew we were poor. (Mormon’s call church members brother and sister.)
I can live in my mother and father’s past and my grandparents past because they lived with us and told us about their lives. My mother was born in a tent in 1901 in a mining town (Silver City, UT). My father was ranching in Rich County, UT (named after my great great great Uncle Charles C. Rich) when he was a youngster and he was kidnapped by Ute Indians in 1900 when he was two weeks old.
What happened in the past can influence our present and future. The times it is best to block out the past so that we can get on with our future. Our future should be based on our dreams and faith in our ability to make those dreams come true. The things we do now in our short present help us to improve the future.
It’s time for us to get on with our future life.
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One last quote from Steve Jobs:
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.Steve Jobs
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Small minds think about people, medium minds think about things, great minds think about ideas but super minds mind their own business.
Mind Your Own Business is Good Advice
I have added to an old quote: Small minds think about people, medium minds think about things, great minds think about ideas but super minds mind their own business.
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Perhaps one of the most important accomplishments of my administration has been minding my own business. Calvin Coolidge
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Calvin Coolidge was the 30th president of the United States. Coming from the England, minding your own business was an axiom of life. When we stick our noses into other people’s business, we complicate situations, give advice without full knowledge, and we often heard those who we should love.
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Justice means minding one’s own business and not meddling with other men’s concerns. Plato
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Plato was born in Athens in 42 BC. In the earliest sense, Cain put his nose into Able’s business and murdered him.
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I am just absolutely convinced that the best formula for giving us peace and preserving the American way of life is freedom, limited government, and minding our own business overseas. Ron Paul
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If Ron Paul’s son had become the candidate for the Republican Party in the current presidential election, I think that he would have easily defeated Hillary Clinton. America is going to the polls today and I’m sure that Clinton will win by a landslide.
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“They have provided a system which for terse comprehensiveness surpasses Justinian’s Pandects and the By-laws of the Chinese Society for the Suppression of Meddling with other People’s Business.”
― Herman Melville, Moby-Dick; or, The Whale
“How do I have productive days with minimum drama? Simple; I mind my own business.”
― Steve Maraboli
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Introduction to 10 Crеаtіvе Ways Tо Gеt Yоurѕеlf Mоtіvаtеd
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I believe wе аrе аll mоtіvаtеd bу something or another. It іѕ ѕаіd wе еасh hаvе a natural tеndеnсу to be mоtіvаtеd in one оf two wауѕ: еіthеr towards ѕоmеthіng рlеаѕurаblе for uѕ оr аwау frоm ѕоmеthіng thаt’ѕ раіnful.
I’vе nоtісеd that іf I hаvе someone visiting mе I’m motivated tо gеttіng the hоuѕе іn order.
If I hаvе a meeting tо аttеnd I’m mоtіvаtеd tо getting dоnе whаtеvеr I nееd tо рrераrе fоr that mееtіng. I mау run out of tіmе. Thе ԛuаlіtу mау nоt аlwауѕ bе whаt іt ѕhоuld. But I hаvе a gооd stab at getting thіngѕ dоnе.
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If I’m сrіtісіѕеd bу someone аbоut ѕоmеthіng I’ve nоt dоnе I fееl ѕhаmеd into action.
On the positive side, іf I’m faced wіth a рrоjесt thаt’ѕ еxсіtіng, сhаllеngіng аnd uрlіftіng іn juѕt thе rіght mеаѕurе fоr me, аnd I decide I wаnt tо do a great jоb or rеасh a сеrtаіn level of аttаіnmеnt, I’m аlѕо mоtіvаtеd tо tаkе action – and I often рrоduсе gооd rеѕultѕ іn this instance.
I hаvе tо fееl I can achieve, аnd асhіеvе fаіrlу easily. If I fееl in аnу wау оvеrwhеlmеd I’ll be demotivated.
So I suppose the question іѕ how саn уоu turn that whісh іѕ раіnful for уоu into ѕоmеthіng thаt арреаrѕ mоrе pleasurable?
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1. Cаn уоu change thе іmаgе уоu hаvе in уоur hеаd оf that thіng уоu dоn’t wаnt to do? Fоr іnѕtаnсе if thе іmаgе іѕ of pushing a boulder uр a hіll, could уоu сhаngе thе image ѕо thаt it becomes a реbblе bеіng kісkеd along the grоund? Does thіѕ сhаngе thе wау уоu feel about whаt it is уоu’rе tackling? If ѕо how?
2. Cаn уоu focus оn hоw уоu’ll fееl оnсе you’ve dоnе whаt уоu’rе drеаdіng? If you keep thе end in mind all the tіmе аnd fосuѕ on that fееlіng оf ѕаtіѕfасtіоn thіѕ can bе a bіg mоtіvаtоr
3. Cаn you outline tо уоurѕеlf thе bеnеfіtѕ (рrоѕ) оf doing whаt уоu dоn’t want tо dо? Cоuld уоu devise a рrоѕ аnd cons grіd, whеrе the рrоѕ are роѕіtіvеlу encouraging уоu tо асt, and thе соnѕ аrе spurring уоu іntо action to avoid the dіѕсоmfоrt оf nоt dоіng?
4. Can you break dоwn thе project оr tаѕk іntо ѕmаllеr activities that уоu ѕсhеdulе іn tо complete оvеr tіmе? We don’t аlwауѕ have tо dо еvеrуthіng in оnе gо – аnd іf wе аttеmрt tо do ѕо, іt саn аt times fееl quite оvеrwhеlmіng.
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5. Could уоu іmаgіnе the wоrѕt-саѕе ѕсеnаrіо fоr уоurѕеlf іf уоu don’t complete your рrоjесt оr tаѕk, and аllоw thіѕ to push you іntо action?
6. Cоuld уоu in some way hоld уоurѕеlf ассоuntаblе bу ѕhаrіng уоur objectives wіth оthеrѕ whom you trust? Cаn you do a dеаl wіth someone: I’ll ѕtор ѕmоkіng іf you ѕtор drіnkіng?
7. Can you thіnk of 3 іnѕtаnсеѕ whеrе you fеlt completely demotivated tо do ѕоmеthіng but dіd іt аnуwау аnd fеlt grеаt аftеrwаrdѕ? Whаt did you dо to get уоurѕеlf tо move іn the dіrесtіоn of уоur рrоjесt оr tаѕk? Cаn уоu replicate thаt for thіѕ сurrеnt activity?
8. Cоuld уоu gіvе уоurѕеlf a сhаllеngіng tіmе limit thаt’ll spur уоu on?Cаn you make іt a rасе against tіmе? Sеttіng challenging but realistic time limits саn hеlр to іnсrеаѕе nоt only уоur fосuѕ but аlѕо уоur оvеrаll speed.
9. Cоuld уоu rеduсе the аmоunt оf time you spend оn the рrоjесt уоu dоn’t want tо tасklе (еvеn if уоu ѕреnd juѕt five minutes іn the fіrѕt instance уоu will hаvе dоnе something – even іf іt’ѕ juѕt tо thіnk аbоut thе project for five mіnutеѕ)?
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10. Cоuld уоu dеlеgаtе thе рrоjесt/tаѕk (оr part of it)? Thіѕ соuld frее you uр tо dо the stuff уоu’rе best аt. Dоеѕ it make sense fоr you tо do іt? Are уоu the best person fоr the job? Bе hоnеѕt! If іt’ѕ gоіng tо tаkе уоu a week to dо ѕоmеthіng уоu dіѕlіkе that ѕоmеоnе еlѕе could dо іn a day аnd еnjоу, mауbе it’s tіmе tо dеlеgаtе.
Madame Marie Curie never gave up. She was motivated to succeed and she did, a Nobel Prize Winner Twice. Links to Curie at Amazon. Read her biography.
The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Mahatma Gandhi
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Often our unhappiness is short lived. When unhappiness continues to the point of depression, it is a serious situation.
It’s often difficult for those who are lucky enough to have never experienced what true depression is to imagine a life of complete hopelessness, emptiness and fear. Susan PolisSchutz
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Family and Friends
Family members or friends may make us unhappy. Having said that, they also can bring us out of depression and shorter states of unhappiness. My wife has dementia. When our daughter comes to see us, my wife is very alert. As soon as my daughter leaves, she prefers to sleep. When my wife’s caregivers daughter comes, she immediately bring my wife to consciousness and happiness.
Radiance like Red Skelton and Carol Burnett, add laughter to the masses. But I read about one man who was very ill and depressed. His cure was to watch VCR tapes of red Skelton. He pulled out of his depression and eventually recovered from his illness. Needless to say, depression is not good medicine for the critically ill.
Pain and Suffering
Pain and suffering can bring depression, especially when it is terminal and will not end until death. For pain from crippling accidents or war due to the loss of limbs or sight or other functions, the victim may be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and come out of depression. Loved ones are so important here. Medical and rehabiliatation personel can be very important in removing the terror and fear and pain, allowing the patient to become strong enough to overcome himself or herself and regain a perspective that will help restore some degree of happiness.
I think it’s true that the 1 Percent or the elite are living in a world of, maybe, excessive privilege, and they don’t fully realize how much pain and suffering, how much anxiety exists out there. Nouriel Roubini
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Even in the most dreadful situations, faith can help an individual suffering in depression to overcome his despiration and see a promising future, either in this life or the life to come. Jesus Christ was the premier healer on our planet and faith in him even though he has left the earth restores folks physically and mentally and spiritually. I know little about other faiths but I am sure they have deities they rely on.
Just having faith in caregivers and yourself may restore you.
Thinking of Others
Your emparthy for others, gained from your own situtation realizing that they are worse off then you, can bring you out of depression by bestowing a since of gratitude on you and a desire to help others.
The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.Mahatma Gandhi
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Be of Good Cheer!
There is help!
It may be a family or friend that restores your happiness. It may be medical care. It may be faith. But the human is capable at overpowering fear and sorrow and pain. May God Bless you to do so.
If things persist, don’t forget to use professionals to help you with your problems.
I’ve experienced several different healing methodologies over the years – counseling, self-help seminars, and I’ve read a lot – but none of them will work unless you really want to heal. Lindsay Wagner
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Aster: A flower of the fall. It can take cold weather.
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What Is True Happiness?
George Burns lived a long life and made others laugh. Humor is great for a long life.
Happiness can be elusive. In our world, we too often equate happiness with having a high-paying job, owning a big house, and have lots of “stuff.” While being economically comfortable can go a long way to making someone happy, it is, in reality, only a tiny fraction of what truly makes us happy as people. In reality, cultivating an attitude of gratitude will lift your mood, make you more content, less envious, and all around happier.
Learn to Be More Grateful!
Learning to be more grateful for the people in your life and for the things that you have is a major step towards being a happier person.
Here are six ways you can cultivate gratitude in your own life:
Take a moment to count your blessings every day.
You might not love taking the bus to work, but it’s a lot better than walking, right? Getting stuck in traffic might feel like an inconvenience, but you can use this time to jam to your favorite music or call your kids.
Train yourself to write down five things you are grateful for each day.
Start keeping a gratitude journal. At the end of every day, write down five unique things that you were grateful for that day.
Correct negative thoughts with positive ones.
That guy with the cubicle next to yours might not be your favorite person, but if you only ever think about his bad qualities, you’ll only ever feel negatively about him. What are his good qualities? Every time you have a negative thought, correct it with a positive one. This builds a happier, more positive mindset.
Give at least one person a compliment every day. Compliments lift the mood of others and it trains you to notice the good things about other people.
Make an effort to really engage with other people.
Too often, we make other people feel like they are wasting our time. Show people that you care about them by really engaging with them. Don’t just ask “how are you” because it’s the thing to do, really genuinely show concern for others.
Challenge yourself not to complain for a full day, week, or month.
Complaining is so easy, and while it can be cathartic, it very rarely solves any problems. Instead, spend that energy being a problem solver and expressing gratitude.
Take Care of Your Health
Funny Old Lady
Eat right and get exercise everyday. Avoid drugs and tobacco. Easy on alcohol.
Benjamin Franklin was born on January 17, 1706, in Bostondied on April 17, 1790, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
Study something new everyday for art least 10 minutes. You will soon become an expert if you concentrate on one area of study. But putting something new in your brain will revitalize you.
Take time out for your self. Meditate. Write a poem or inspirational story, Paint a picture. Study your religion. Pray to your God.
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Books on Being Positive
Staying positive, especially when things are going wrong, can be a daunting task. That said, wallowing in negativity doesn’t exactly make anything better. Positive people are problem solvers. They do not let the things that are going wrong around them deter them from moving forward. Staying positive isn’t exactly easy, but it is possible. Here are some tips to help you stay positive, no matter what:
Look for Silver Linings
If you are going through a difficult patch, there are still silver linings to every cloud. You just have to look for them. Having a positive outlook, even on a negative situation, is extremely necessary when it comes to finding the good, even in bad situations.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
It can be tempting to surround yourself with people that want to complain and wallow in negativity. However, surrounding yourself with positive people is more likely to help you remain positive. They can help you readjust your mindset when you start to feel like you want to wallow or complain. Talk to intelligent older people who have dealt with life’s problems. They will tell you how to cope.
This Pic Links to the Art of Happiness by the Dali Lama
Remove Negative Media
There will be music, articles, television shows, and movies that encourage you to have a negative outlook on life. If you want to remain positive, you will have to remove those influences from your life. The things that you read, listen to, and watch have a huge effect on how you feel and what you do, so make those things positive.
See Things As They Are
Learn to see things as they really are. It really annoys me when someone cuts me off in traffic, largely because I choose to believe that they have done it on purpose and with malicious intent, when the truth is probably the opposite, and, really, does it matter? I’m safe, they’re safe, no harm, no foul. Don’t make mountains out of things that really are molehills.
Don’t Let Fear Run Your Life
Stop letting vague fears hold you back from specific actions. Learn to ask yourself what the worst thing is that could happen—and be reasonable. If you want to take a chance with your career and ask for a raise, what’s the worst that could happen? Your manager will say no. At least you took the chance and asked. The best thing that could happen usually far outweighs the worst thing.
Think About Your Appeal to Others
Negative people can add to the discouragement of others. For that reason, others don’t like to be around negative people. However, this only applies if the negative person has a habitual tendency to be negative and never has a cheerful thought. Try not to share negativity too much with others. If you have a perpetual problem, then seek professional help.
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A healthy mind and a healthy body go together.
The other day, my wife’s caregiver had a horrible migraine headache. She was sobbing as she continued to go about her work. In many cases, folks have serious physical handicaps, but they continue to use their minds for the benefit of others.
I often mention Robert Louis Stevenson who said that he never felt good one day in his life, but if he did not get out of bed and go to work, nothing would be accomplished.
Look at Stephen Hawking who is completely immobilized and cannot even talk. A specially designed computer allows him to speak to us. He continues every day to work on his theories of cosmology, the creation of the universe.
The optimum is to have a healthy mind and body. Then we have a well-oiled machine that can create both mental and physical feats.
My well-oiled machine is falling apart. But I have been blessed by good surgeons and other doctors who keep me moving along.
Take care of yourself!
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Quotation by Henry Ward Beecher
Down and Out
When you feel down and out, your feet can get sucked into the quicksand of life and all progress stops. Out thoughts are sometimes controlled by those we know and love. They may do something wrong or stupid that offends you.
Think About This
You should be more surprised when they do something right, not when they do something wrong or stupid.
However, we have a hard time thinking that way. We need to realize that we are the ones in the “hole” and not the ones who put us there. You have to grab ourselves by our bootstraps and pull ourselves out.
Time Heals All
Time is usually in our favor and we don’t stay down in the dumps for too long. But that is not always true. Sometimes we need a helping hand to recover. That may be as simple as talking to a person who has given you offense (or you have offended). Burdens are often relieved in that way.
A certain amount of impatience may be useful to stimulate and motivate us to action. However, I believe that a lack of patience is a major cause of the difficulties and unhappiness in the world today.
Joseph B. Wirthlin
Impatient Leader Can Destroy Society
World leaders are often inclined to misinterpret events and they move quickly to action. Such actions can cost the lives of millions of people. Diplomacy is ignored and the nations are called to war.
Impatience can lead to incorrect decisions, ignoring the proper decision. Sometimes leaders see a problem, quickly instituted a decision, and then disrupt everything because of their stupidity.
Impatience Destroys Families
Impatience with family members, leads to discord. It may cause a spouse or children to leave the home for ever.
Impatience Can Destroy Progress
Are often too impatient to learn new things. We take one look at a textbook and say, “My goodness, that book is thick! I’m not going to take that class, not in a million years.”
Impatience is the opposite of thoughtfulness, it excludes wise decisions and planning. So think about it, as your inpatients cause problems for you. Some impatience can drive you too good works, useful things that help you and your community. Just don’t overdo it.