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My Most Famous Quotations

My Most Famous (Fabricated) Quotations

John and Pat Jones back when we did things together. We have been married over 62 years. Grand Tetons

John and Pat Jones back when we did things together. We have been married over 63 years. Grand Tetons

I’ve decided to record some of my most famous quotations just in case you have never heard them. The first:

The question is not is there life after death but is there life after birth.

Over the years, I have thought that the lower caste in India, and the impoverished people everywhere, have little to live for. Who wants to live in squalor where sewage runs down the streets?

Actually, they do have something to live for. They don’t just sit on their haunches and die. They have children and the children learn to survive. The driving force for all critters is survival, not just the short-term survival of those living, but the survival of those who will live in the future. It’s all about preserving DNA.

But there is more than that. Some folks are able to overcome a bad situation and rise above the rest. That is what parents in desperate situations want for their children.

From this point on, I will make up my great quotations as we move along.

Next quotation:

Civilized people are amazingly adept at wasting time.Image result for free pic wasting time

We are very clever at creating devices that save time, reduce our workload and give us time to create devices that waste our time. Almost everyone in the world is on the Internet and we set on our haunches and surf the net for hours at a time.

If you find that television can be a horrible waste of time, then what about the cell phone, the greatest time waster in all history?

The cell phone combined with the Internet may be the peak of time wasting activity, but don’t bet on it. At this very moment, industrialist are garnering up all their forces to develop products that will make your life a complete waste! (I put that in italics because, who knows, it could be a great quote of mine.)

The cell phone is a good way to check whether or not your kid is in church or in a bar or hanging out with those bad folks. It will also turn your brain into mush.

That was an amazing quote, right?

Let’s try another:

We enjoy pretending what we are not to avoid being what we are.Image result for free pic sports fanatic

We tend to overlook the fact that we are just as important to society as a big-brained scientist, a valedictorian, a major league pitcher who can throw one hundred and 3 miles an hour, a writer of thick novels, a skilled craftsman and one who can paint pretty pictures. We are just important in different ways. If a man works all day shoveling manure but he’s using his hard-earned money to care for his family, then he is very important to them. He can always put on nice clothing and go to church with them on Sunday and nobody will know that he shovels cow poop. (I could quote a little bitty we said when we were kids about how nobody knows what’s in our underwear, but in propriety, I skipped it.)

Why do we dress like the athletics at sporting events? To become them!

Here’s another one of my great fabricated quotes:Image result for free pic missed opportunity

We are too often blind to opportunity. While opportunity is right under our feet, we sometimes avoid it lest it dirty our shoes, it disappears into the earth.

Here’s a story, more or less as I remember, aired at church years ago from a young women I know who was speaking:

A camel driver in the Sahara spotted an old man in the sand who was dying of thirst. He stayed with the old man overnight helping him to recover. He gave the old man a camel and food and water to finish his journey home.

As a camel driver was about to leave on his journey, the old man opened a cloth bag in front of him and tell told him to take a big hands full of what looked like pebbles to the camel driver. He thought the old man was crazy from the sun and he only took a few pebbles.

As a camel driver was moving along he thought about the old man in the pebbles. He decided to take a look at them again. When he did he saw that they were rubies.

The camel driver was glad that he had taken a few pebbles, but he was very unhappy that he had taken so few.

Sometimes we see opportunities that we can’t take, or at least we think that we cannot take. Some years ago (1966) we moved to Ames, Iowa. I immediately saw that there was no McDonald’s. I didn’t have a penny in my pocket that I can put towards such an investment. It looked like an impossible to me, and I simply let it pass.

Few years later, my neighbor built a McDonald’s. He was not a rich man but he took his opportunity to the bank where he was given enough money to start a McDonald’s.

I in turn, decided that an engineering professor’s salary was too low for me to send all of my children through college and missions for our church so I took a higher paying job in industry and left Iowa State University. If I were the one who had started the McDonald’s, money would not of been a problem.

When I was a young lad, my friend, Paul, told me to grab my red wagon and we took off west on Highway, 40 picking up bottles and putting them in the wagon. We then took the bottles to the grocery store and collected the deposits.

To my surprise, we did not go back to the highway to gather more bottles. Instead went to the junkyard across the tracks and purchased bottles which we took back to the grocery and earned a penny or two on each bottle.

We did this until Kenneth Horsley, the grocer, said “No more bottles!

Paul saw this opportunity and he took it, but that is not my point. When we were out in the Sagebrush walking along Highway 40, I could see all the vacant land that someday would simply be an extension of the growing Salt Lake City. I wanted to buy that the land and hold it.

A couple of years later, when I saw a brokerage office in Salt Lake City, and was told what it was, I wished I could buy General Electric stock and hold it.

Both of these dreams were beyond me. I was thinking of things that I could do if I already had of which I had little or none. (I later bought GE more than once, but unlike my wise son who keeps valuable stocks, I sold it.)

I was born in 1932, the worst year of the Great Depression. My dad, a hard-working rancher kid who had moved to the city, was out of work for two years. With 9 mouths to feed, the most important thing to him was finding a job and keeping it. My father admired anyone in the professions such as engineers and doctors, and such, who kept working through the depression. My father had less opportunity because he was an accountant and there was no money to count.

My older brother became an attorney, I became an engineer, and my younger brother became an accountant which moved him on to successful business ownership. So as far as my father was concerned, his objectives were reached through his sons. (Isn’t that true of all of us. Let’s invent another great quotation: Our visions are fulfilled by our children.)

There is the temptation to go on here and say many other things about missed opportunities and how what seem to be impossible opportunities can come to pass. Suffice it to say, sometimes opportunities are missed because we think that they are impossible to us, although they are not. (Sometimes great quotation just pop up.)

One more and then I’ll shut up:

For some people impediments to progress are simply the stepping stones to success.

I dreamed this one up because of the young divorced women with four children who was stricken with a horribly the debilitating disease. I met her after my retirement in Arizona where I was voluntarily helping to build her home through Habitat for Humanity.

She was mainly confined to a wheelchair, yet with her children and her ex-husband she made sure that her share of the work was completed.

I also worked for the museum in Payson Arizona as a volunteer and I fished in the lake near the museum. I would see this beautiful young woman bent over those crutches that fit under your arm and forced herself to walk around the lake. I can always see her in unbearable pain, but more than that, I could see her unrelenting determination.

You do remember Helen Keller, don’t you?

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Helen Keller and her teacher, Anne Sullivan

Anne Sullivan took this poor blind and deaf child and helped her to become a person of noted accomplishment. Ann Sullivan of course deserves much of the credit but the bottom line is that the noble spirit who could not see or hear or speak was determined to overcome her disabilities.

Such noble people! Now that makes me want to create one more famous quote by me, Taylor Jones, the hack writer:

Nobility is not measured by wealth and title. It is measured by the true respect and honor given to a benevolent individual who, despite disabilities and restrictions, continually loves and serves mankind.

John

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How to Have a Better Life

If life has you in an unproductive grip, here are some things I hope will show you how to have a better life.

Our Lives Are Not Static

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Our lives are not static, things change. But it sometimes seems like our life has come to a complete halt as far as progress or positive change occurs. We are in a rut. Some of us care about that status, we want to change, others simply decide to live with it, putting up with the unhappiness that often comes with it.

What Happened?

Sometimes a major change in our life stops progress, at least temporarily.

When I was in Korea (1951-52) I saw how the war had interrupted the lives and destiny of Korean families. It was affecting the lives of those of us who were doing the fighting and our loved ones at home.

In Korea we visited an abandoned farm. The farm house was a hexagonal structure with a open courtyard in the center protected from the wind. We could see where the family members cooked and ate together. I still imagine in my mind a three generation family enjoying their life immensely before the North Korean menace came down the peninsula and destroyed everything in site, tearing the man from their families to force them to serve in the North Korean army or die, killing others who resisted and such.

Of course we saw this in WWII and I had seen first hand the result on some individuals in WWI, The Great War. There is nothing great, glorious or noble about war. It’s products are death and dismay.

Here is a poem I wrote some years ago about the above Korean experience:

 

Death of a Loved One

A death in the family is very traumatic, often affecting the lives of oursiders. Illness can be devastating. Sometimes folks go into depression which they can not control without knowing why.

Losing a Job Is Traumatic

My father was out of work for two years during the Great Depression. He continually looked for work. Finally the WPA came along and he was able to get a job as an accountant. (Don’t ask me why they call things “great” when they are flat out miserable.)

When I was little I asked my bother why there were so many knife marks on the kitchen door. She told me that was where my father threw his pocket knife when he could not find work.

Anyway, when the stuff hits the fan our lives become dismal.

How Do We Find Our Way Out?

Heart, might, mind and soul are factors in our journey to a more happy and worthwhile life. So, let’s start with those factors.

Heart

This can be a lot of things such as “What is your heart set on?” or goals.

It can also mean “What do you love with all your heart?

It can be a driving force for action such as in “He doesn’t have the heart to do it.” And that can mean, he couldn’t be cruel or he isn’t strong enough mentally to do it. Listen to Peggy Lee:

If you have heart, you can grab your bootstraps and pull yourself out of the mud. If you have heart, you will bless those you love.

If you have heart, you will have passion and understanding and empathy for others and their situations.

Might

Rich people have might because of their wealth and influence. However, I’m thinking of our physical strength that allows us to accomplish our daily task. I have lost my physical might in that expect me to shovel my neighbors driveway when the snow falls. Expect to see my caregivers doing the shoveling on my walk and my neighbors.

If we lack physical strength, we still can do things like pushing the keys on a laptop keyboard as I’m doing. But there are many examples of people who do far more than anyone would expect.

A friend of mine in Payson, Arizona is confined to a wheelchair and is extremely crippled. She takes care of her 4 children, whom now are probably all grown, but she takes a couple of those short crutches under her arms and struggles to walk around the city lake. A beautiful lady struck by a terrible illness but uses what strength she can generate to propel herself onword. (When I was helping to build houses for Habitat for Humanity, we built her home. She did her owner part by doing some of the work.)

Robert Lewis Stevenson

Robert Lewis Stevenson, the great writer, said he never did feel one day in his life well enough to get out of bed, but if he did not, nothing would be accomplished. We all have enjoyed his great stories and books.

The bottom line is that we should take care of our bodies by staying away from harmful substances and by maintaining or increasing our physical strenght. Then something will be accomplished.

Mind

It was once said that if you read ten minutes each day on a particular subject that you could gain some degree of proficiency in one year. Now, with our overflow of information, they are saying that it takes 5 years to become proficient. We all know, or many of us, that it takes 8-10 years to become proficient and even then we must keep learning.

Starting anything new means that you need to obtain more knowledge. For success, there is always that requirement which is sometimes very difficult. We all need to refresh are minds with new information and by being creative, by solving tough problems. The driving force to do all of this is that we can obtain great satisfaction by doing so.

Soul

You need to place some value on yourself to be happy. Many ask, “Why are we here?” meaning what is the meaning our creation. We humans thing we are better than the other members of our species, something special because of our different abilities and accomplishments. We have special talents spread amongst the human race and they are often developed, having less value until we do such. There are no chimpanzee concert pianist, writers, artist, scientist, etc. Of course, our chimpanzee friends are much stronger than us and they certainly can do things we can’t do, but we see our abilities as special and therefore we are superior.

These feelings are important. They help us to develop complex societies. Problems related to that development are often solved. We don’t have the slightest ability to avoid war, the most heinous of all crimes. We decide that the only way to avoid war is to build a big defensive force which usually becomes offensive. War is a sickness that needs to be cured.

But our feeling of net self-worth is generated by what we believe. Religion plays an important part. Most religions believe in an afterlife of some sort. Christians even claim godhood by claiming to be God’s children. The belief in the resurrection is often used to rationalize the killing in war. After all, all the war dead will be resurrected.

Some believe in reincarnation. This belief is more common than one might think. It creeps into Christianity. Is believing in a past life, the present life and a future live, reincarnation. Well, it is not like some beliefs where you may be born into one class of society (caste) and end up in another and then another until you come to the happy state of “nothingness.”

Nothing occurs without faith. Faith starts with a dream and then becomes a reality. It is this knowledge that we have that keeps up on our feed and moving ahead. For those who do not follow what I am saying about faith, think of two towns on a wide river across from each other. They can only visit by boat. They dream of a bridge. The Mayors get together and decide that contributions, taxes and tolls can pay for the bridge. An engineer draws a sketch. Builders bid on the bridge, changing the design. The final plans are drawn and the contractors build the bridge. A dream, faith, and action are the keys to the bridge. Many were involved. As Steve Jobs said:

Great things in business are never done by one person. They’re done by a team of people. Steve Jobs
Thanks to: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/s/stevejobs737723.html

One way to get out of the doldrums and difficulties of life is to have others help you with your goals and you help them with there difficulties.

In fact, one of the best way to move forward is to stop thinking about ourselves and to think about others. Sometimes when we see that others have problems, we see that our problems are not as bad and that most of them are salvable.

Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

As I said, we can do things that others can’t do. One thing we can do is we can live in the past long before we were born, back to the beginning of time and space. We can also live in the future. Doesn’t it say on your Calendar that Christmas will surely come on Tuesday, December 25, 2051. (Such a perpetual calendar can be found on the internet.)

Actually I know exactly what I was doing on that Tuesday, December 25, 1951. We were fighting Chinese on Hill 1243 in the Punch Bowl in Korea–I snow and cold.

I was born on a Tuesday in January of 1932. I can’t remember that but I’m positive is true. My little brother was born a Thursday in 1935. This event is vividly implanted in my brain because I was in my parent’s bedroom when he was born. So were my parents, our doctor (Dr. Phelps), his nurse, Our neighbor (Sister Perry) who was looking after me and a very bright incandescent light bulb overhead. I was in my iron crib, like a cage when the sides were up, was wet lying on a rubber sheet and I was mad. When they told me I had another brother, I could have cared less. I was taken by the hand of Sister Perry and walked to through the cold dining room into a kitchen which was barely getting warm. When they put a bowl of mush in front of me instead of my salt bacon and eggs that my mother served, I knew we were poor. (Mormon’s call church members brother and sister.)

I can live in my mother and father’s past and my grandparents past because they lived with us and told us about their lives. My mother was born in a tent in 1901 in a mining town (Silver City, UT). My father was ranching in Rich County, UT (named after my great great great Uncle Charles C. Rich) when he was a youngster and he was kidnapped by Ute Indians in 1900 when he was two weeks old.

What happened in the past can influence our present and future. The times it is best to block out the past so that we can get on with our future. Our future should be based on our dreams and faith in our ability to make those dreams come true. The things we do now in our short present help us to improve the future.

It’s time for us to get on with our future life.

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One last quote from Steve Jobs:

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. Steve Jobs
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John T. Jones, Ph.D.
Buhl, ID

P.S. Steve Jobs died to young but he plugged on despite difficuities until his death. Here is his Stanford University Commencement Address:

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mind your own business quotes

Adding to an old quote:

Small minds think about people, medium minds think about things, great minds think about ideas but super minds mind their own business.

Mind Your Own Business is Good Advice

I have added to an old quote: Small minds think about people, medium minds think about things, great minds think about ideas but super minds mind their own business.

Calvin Coolidge

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Perhaps one of the most important accomplishments of my administration has been minding my own business. Calvin Coolidge
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Calvin Coolidge was the 30th president of the United States. Coming from the England, minding your own business was an axiom of life. When we stick our noses into other people’s business, we complicate situations, give advice without full knowledge, and we often heard those who we should love.

Plato

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Justice means minding one’s own business and not meddling with other men’s concerns. Plato
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Plato was born in Athens in 42 BC. In the earliest sense, Cain put his nose into Able’s business and murdered him.

Ron Paul

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I am just absolutely convinced that the best formula for giving us peace and preserving the American way of life is freedom, limited government, and minding our own business overseas. Ron Paul
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If Ron Paul’s son had become the candidate for the Republican Party in the current presidential election, I think that he would have easily defeated Hillary Clinton. America is going to the polls today and I’m sure that Clinton will win by a landslide.

Hermann Melville

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“They have provided a system which for terse comprehensiveness surpasses Justinian’s Pandects and the By-laws of the Chinese Society for the Suppression of Meddling with other People’s Business.”
― Herman Melville, Moby-Dick; or, The Whale

Steve Maraboli

“How do I have productive days with minimum drama? Simple; I mind my own business.”
― Steve Maraboli

Steve Maraboli http://www.stevemaraboli.com/ is a life-changing Speaker, bestselling Author, and Behavioral Scientist who lends his popular voice to various topics.

My Advice to Keep Chaos Out Of Our Lives

Let’s all mind our own business!

John

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How to Best Help Your Child Learn

Introduction to How to Best Help Your Child Learn

We cannot teach people anything; we can only help them discover it within themselves. - Galileo Galilei

Thеrе wіll be a tіmе in уоur child’s асаdеmіс lіfе span whеn he fаіlѕ a сlаѕѕ. Or, іf уоu hаvе a lаtе blооmеr уоur сhіld’ѕ academic wоrld mіght соnѕіѕt оf several fаіlіng grades. It wаѕ shocking when you wеrе mаdе aware of your сhіld’ѕ рооr grаdе because nоt оnсе dіd уоur сhіld іndісаtе thаt hе was ѕtrugglіng with any оf hіѕ class work. Yоu аrе now aware оf уоur сhіld’ѕ асаdеmіс ѕtrugglеѕ and so уоu frantically trу tо resolve thе іѕѕuе.

The First Step

The fіrѕt step tо hеlр уоur сhіld academically begins wіth асknоwlеdgіng his ѕtrеngthѕ and weaknesses. Parents оftеn refuse tо acknowledge thаt their сhіld cannot rеаd, wrіtе, or be successful іn a gіvеn subject. Thеу ѕtаrt to lооk аt hоw much television their сhіld wаtсhеѕ, оr hіѕ ѕtudу hаbіtѕ. Parents bеgіn to рunіѕh thеіr сhіld bу eliminating tеlеvіѕіоn, vіdео games аnd social асtіvіtіеѕ. Thеn insist that thеіr сhіld ѕреndѕ more time ѕtudуіng. Whіlе аll оf thеѕе ѕtерѕ mіght bе necessary, vаluаblе аnd impactful they саnnоt bе thе only соnѕіdеrаtіоn.

How Does Your Child Learn?

Thе mаnnеr іn whісh a child learns fаllѕ into two categories: census or іntuіtіvе. If parents do nоt help thеіr сhіld unсоvеr his lеаrnіng ѕtуlе then no аmоunt оf discipline or ѕtudу hаbіtѕ wіll lead tо better grаdеѕ. The сhіld wіll ѕріn аrоund аіmlеѕѕlу trуіng tо memorize thеоrіеѕ and rules wіthоut rеtеntіоn. Cоnѕеԛuеntlу, when аѕѕеѕѕmеntѕ аrе administered the child does poorly.

Aѕ thе lеаrnіng style ѕurfасеѕ, students wіll unсоvеr a ѕресіаl aptitude fоr a раrtісulаr subject. Pаrеntѕ must learn to ассерt their ѕtudеntѕ’ аbіlіtіеѕ toward a раrtісulаr subject. Trуіng tо mаkе your child аn аrtіѕt whеn hе еxсеlѕ аt science рrоvеѕ соuntеrрrоduсtіvе. Whеn placed in thіѕ роѕіtіоn students tеnd to act-out аnd еаѕіlу bесоmе thе сlаѕѕ сlоwn. Students оftеn еxреrіеnсе the fruѕtrаtіоn оf trуіng tо funсtіоn outside thеіr аbіlіtіеѕ аnd thіѕ eventually rеѕultѕ іn failing grades.

What Is Going on in the Classroom?test failed

After еxрlоrіng your сhіld’ѕ lеаrnіng ѕtуlе, failing grаdеѕ ѕtіll persist, consider thе ѕtudеnt teacher rеlаtіоnѕhір. Personality clashes in thе сlаѕѕrооm еxіѕt mоrе оftеn thаn not, ѕоmе students function wеll within thіѕ environment, some dо nоt.

Wе аrе social bеіngѕ and оur сhіldrеn mоrе ѕо. Thеrе are students whо crave fоr ѕосіаl іntеrасtіоn wіth their рееrѕ аnd if thеу do nоt get it ѕuffеr асаdеmісаllу. These humаn needs аrіѕе from еmоtіоnаllу depriving relationship wіthіn thе home. Studеntѕ need tо bеlоng, to feel as thеу fіt іn with thеіr рееrѕ. When thіѕ social aspect gеtѕ рuѕhеd аѕіdе, асаdеmісѕ ѕuffеr.

Tutoring

Sometimes gооd оld fashion tutoring саn hеlр рut уоur сhіld back on trасk. Tutoring саn come in many dіffеrеnt fоrmѕ аnd ѕtуlеѕ. There will bе a tіmе іn your сhіld’ѕ асаdеmіс lіfе whеn оnе оn one оr ѕресіаlіtу tutоrіng wіll prevent fаіlіng grаdеѕ. Read mоrе on the dіffеrеnt ways ѕtudеntѕ learn and gain іnѕіght іntо hоw best to help your child ѕuссееd academically.

Maybe Your Child Does Not Want To Learn

Sometimes a child just gives up on learning. This is often confused with being lazy. Maybe professional counseling is needed to resolve behavior problems

John

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Grоw Yоur Business Wіth a Positive Attіtudе

Introduction:

Attitude Reflects Leadership

Attitude Reflects Leadership links to Amazon Books on the subject.

Trу as уоu mіght, уоu саn’t hide уоur attitude. Yоu give off verbal аnd behavioral сluеѕ thаt оthеrѕ wіll interpret, оr misinterpret. You want to be positive, enthusiastic about your business activities. Nobody likes a cold wet mop in the face.

Thе gооd news is thаt a positive аttіtudе gеnеrаllу рrоduсеѕ роѕіtіvе соmmunісаtіоn аnd bеhаvіоr. Fаkіng іt to mаѕk a bаd аttіtudе ѕіmрlу dоеѕ not wоrk. Aѕ a lеаdеr, уоu muѕt recognize thе ѕіgnіfісаnt іmрасt оf уоur communication аnd behavior оn those who fоllоw and those whо would be раrtnеrѕ аnd аdvіѕеrѕ.


You choose уоur attitude еvеrу dау, and уоu choose how tо dеаl with events or реорlе thаt сhаllеngе your роѕіtіvе оutlооk. Othеrѕ will rеѕроnd tо уоur wоrdѕ and асtіоnѕ and еvеn mіmіс уоur bеhаvіоr.

Verbal соmmunісаtіоn expressing optimism, соnfіdеnсе аnd encouragement gоеѕ a long way to keeping уоur team mоtіvаtеd. Non-verbal сuеѕ rеflесtіng аttіtudеѕ саn оftеn reveal negativity thаt оthеrѕ wіll nоtісе. Wоrѕе, thеѕе non-verbal сuеѕ аrе оftеn misinterpreted and blown соmрlеtеlу оut of рrороrtіоn, whісh explodes the ѕресіfіс рrоblеm уоu wеrе аttеmрtіng to hіdе.

Yоu can trаіn yourself to trу tо ѕау thе rіght thing іn every сіrсumѕtаnсе tо аvоіd rеvеаlіng your truе fееlіngѕ. In the heat оf battle, you wіll make ѕmаll, іnаdvеrtеnt ѕlір-uрѕ. Fоr еxаmрlе, уоur tеаm іѕ working furіоuѕlу tо mееt a dеаdlіnе tо rеѕроnd to a hugе сuѕtоmеr opportunity. You аrе thеrе wіth thеm, hеlріng іn аnу wау you can. Then, in rеflесtіоn of thе орроrtunіtу, уоu say, “If we gеt this… ” іnѕtеаd оf “Whеn wе get thіѕ… ” Until that mоmеnt, уоur tеаm bеlіеvеd thаt meeting the dеаdlіnе would mean that thеу DO gеt thе “… ” Thаt lіttlе wоrd “If” communicates dоubt аt thе very lеаѕt аnd may ѕuggеѕt уоu know ѕоmеthіng thаt thеу dо nоt. Prоduсtіvіtу gоіng fоrwаrd is gоіng tо tаkе a hіt.

Non-Verbal Cues

Non-verbal сuеѕ can bе еvеn more роwеrful. These соuld be аvоіdіng an employee you dоn’t lіkе оr don’t hаvе соnfіdеnсе іn, showing fаvоrіtіѕm to one оvеr оthеrѕ, оr assigning menial tasks tо a роtеntіаllу vаluаblе person.

Thеѕе bеhаvіоrѕ сrеаtеѕ a problem fоr уоu, the еmрlоуее аnd hіѕ оr her teammates, as nоbоdу еlѕе but уоu саn correct thе ѕіtuаtіоn. Thе реrѕоn уоu don’t lіkе may nееd ѕоmе trаіnіng, or thеу mау be dealing wіth реrѕоnаl issues thаt wіll іnvаrіаblу impact thеіr work.

Maintain a роѕіtіvе оutlооk bу buіldіng a rapport wіth and dеvеlоріng thе ѕkіllѕ and tаlеntѕ оf еvеrуоnе іn thе оrgаnіzаtіоn.

One nоn-vеrbаl cue will damage your rерutаtіоn quickly, and that іѕ tardiness. Evеrуоnе dеаlѕ wіth trаffіс delays, or urgеnt рhоnе саllѕ, оr реrhарѕ thе dog rеаllу did eat уоur hоmеwоrk.

Hаbіtuаllу showing uр lаtе tо mееtіngѕ wіth no nоtісе is disrespectful аnd соmmunісаtеѕ аn аrrоgаnt bеlіеvе thаt уоu аrе thе most іmроrtаnt person іn thе rооm. Emрlоуееѕ wіll рut uр with thіѕ bесаuѕе thеу hаvе tо, but they tоо wіll emulate thе bеhаvіоr and nо mееtіngѕ wіll ѕtаrt оn tіmе in your business. Mоrе іmроrtаntlу, уоu wіll turn off сuѕtоmеrѕ, раrtnеrѕ аnd аdvіѕеrѕ аnd уоu wіll struggle tо rеgаіn thеіr trust.

Inѕtеаd оf wоrkіng hard to choose wоrdѕ аnd асtіоnѕ thаt mask уоur negative аttіtudе, choose a positive attitude and the соrrесt wоrdѕ and behaviors wіll fоllоw easily. While a nеgаtіvе attitude drіvеѕ people away, a роѕіtіvе attitude асt like a mаgnеt drawing оthеrѕ whо wаnt to раrtісіраtе in thе ѕuссеѕѕ оf уоur drеаm.

John

P.S. A young friend of mine wrote this, practicing her writing skills. I added a small bit of editing. But it is important to keep your chin up in business.

Ever have a bad day at the office?

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Parable Good Samaritan: The Fear of Doing Good

You know the story, don’t you?

Luke 10:25-37 King James Version (KJV)

25 And, behold, a certain lawyer stood up, and tempted him, saying, Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?

26 He said unto him, What is written in the law? how readest thou?

27 And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.

28 And he said unto him, Thou hast answered right: this do, and thou shalt live.

29 But he, willing to justify himself, said unto Jesus, And who is my neighbour?

30 And Jesus answering said, A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, which stripped him of his raiment, and wounded him, and departed, leaving him half dead.

31 And by chance there came down a certain priest that way: and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.

32 And likewise a Levite, when he was at the place, came and looked on him, and passed by on the other side.

33 But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was: and when he saw him, he had compassion on him,

34 And went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him.

35 And on the morrow when he departed, he took out two pence, and gave them to the host, and said unto him, Take care of him; and whatsoever thou spendest more, when I come again, I will repay thee.

36 Which now of these three, thinkest thou, was neighbour unto him that fell among the thieves?

37 And he said, He that shewed mercy on him. Then said Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou likewise.

Why Did the Priest and Levite fail to aid a fellow Israelite?

Why Didn’t the Priest Help? Is it the duty of a priest to look after others? And what about the Levite, were they not charged to take care of the down and out? The reason was fear.

From Galilee to Judea

Palistine

Palistine

In biblical times, travel between Galilee and Judea required passage through Samaria. The Samaritans and the Israelites did not get along. They despised each other. There were also bandits who attacked people traveling along the road which boarded the Jordan River. Travelers had to be aware, move quickly through the Samaritan territory not stopping to pick wildflowers.

The Woman at the Well

The Woman at the Well

Do you remember the Woman at the Well?

9 Then saith the woman of Samaria unto him, How is it that thou, being a Jew, askest drink of me, which am a woman of Samaria? for the Jews have no dealings with the Samaritans. John 4

Also there was little love lost between the Israelites and the Canaanites:

The Faith of the Canaanite Woman

The Canaanite Woman

The Canaanite Woman

21Then Jesus went there, and departed into the coasts of Tyre and Sidon. 22And, behold, a woman of Canaan came out of the same coasts, and cried to him, saying, Have mercy on me, O Lord, you son of David; my daughter is grievously vexed with a devil. 23But he answered her not a word. And his disciples came and sought him, saying, Send her away; for she cries after us. 24But he answered and said, I am not sent but to the lost sheep of the house of Israel. 25Then came she and worshipped him, saying, Lord, help me. 26But he answered and said, It is not meet to take the children’s bread, and to cast it to dogs. 27And she said, Truth, Lord: yet the dogs eat of the crumbs which fall from their masters’ table. 28Then Jesus answered and said to her, O woman, great is your faith: be it to you even as you will. And her daughter was made whole from that very hour. (Mark 7:24-30)

We Need to Help Others That Need Our Help

The good Samaritan was in as much jeopardy as the priest and the Levite. Bandits were probably still close by they could have attacked him while he was giving aid to the injured man lying on the road, naked and afraid and in dire need of aid. And even though these two men were “enemies”, the one helped the other.

The story goes on to say that the Samaritan took the Israelite man to an inn where he could be fed and clothed and treated for his wounds. Going beyond that, he left money with the innkeeper to pay for the man’s needs and then told the innkeeper that he would return and pay him for whatever other charges might be required to get the man on his feet again. He didn’t only go out of his way on the road, he went out of his way to make sure this person was taken care of even after he had gone.

Why don’t we help others?

We sometimes see people begging for help as we walked down the street or pass through an intersection. There are some reasons that we don’t help them:

1. They are not really in need. They make several hundred dollars a day begging.

2. They look dirty or dangerous I don’t want to get near them.

3. If I give to one, there’ll be a dozen more with their hands out.

You can take care of people’s needs without coming in contact with them. I tend to give what’s in my pockets. But it might be better to give to an organization that takes care of such people. One of the best is the Salvation Army. They not only take care of people who are out of work and have no place to live, but they take care the people forced out of their homes for any reason. I was working with our church to help those driven out of the mountains because of forest fire. There was another fire in a different area where the aide was being given by the Salvation Army. For that reason, I always donate to the Salvation Army simply having my bank send them an occasional donation to help those in need.

You may not be able to do everything for everyone, but you can help people you know and others through organizations that feed and care for the poor and the needy, homeless, hapless, those in your help.

You can give to national organizations, but I always try to give to the local chapters because they are helping my neighbors, folks who I may find “lying on the road” near my home.

John

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