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How to Have a Better Life

If life has you in an unproductive grip, here are some things I hope will show you how to have a better life.

Our Lives Are Not Static

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Our lives are not static, things change. But it sometimes seems like our life has come to a complete halt as far as progress or positive change occurs. We are in a rut. Some of us care about that status, we want to change, others simply decide to live with it, putting up with the unhappiness that often comes with it.

What Happened?

Sometimes a major change in our life stops progress, at least temporarily.

When I was in Korea (1951-52) I saw how the war had interrupted the lives and destiny of Korean families. It was affecting the lives of those of us who were doing the fighting and our loved ones at home.

In Korea we visited an abandoned farm. The farm house was a hexagonal structure with a open courtyard in the center protected from the wind. We could see where the family members cooked and ate together. I still imagine in my mind a three generation family enjoying their life immensely before the North Korean menace came down the peninsula and destroyed everything in site, tearing the man from their families to force them to serve in the North Korean army or die, killing others who resisted and such.

Of course we saw this in WWII and I had seen first hand the result on some individuals in WWI, The Great War. There is nothing great, glorious or noble about war. It’s products are death and dismay.

Here is a poem I wrote some years ago about the above Korean experience:

 

Death of a Loved One

A death in the family is very traumatic, often affecting the lives of oursiders. Illness can be devastating. Sometimes folks go into depression which they can not control without knowing why.

Losing a Job Is Traumatic

My father was out of work for two years during the Great Depression. He continually looked for work. Finally the WPA came along and he was able to get a job as an accountant. (Don’t ask me why they call things “great” when they are flat out miserable.)

When I was little I asked my bother why there were so many knife marks on the kitchen door. She told me that was where my father threw his pocket knife when he could not find work.

Anyway, when the stuff hits the fan our lives become dismal.

How Do We Find Our Way Out?

Heart, might, mind and soul are factors in our journey to a more happy and worthwhile life. So, let’s start with those factors.

Heart

This can be a lot of things such as “What is your heart set on?” or goals.

It can also mean “What do you love with all your heart?

It can be a driving force for action such as in “He doesn’t have the heart to do it.” And that can mean, he couldn’t be cruel or he isn’t strong enough mentally to do it. Listen to Peggy Lee:

If you have heart, you can grab your bootstraps and pull yourself out of the mud. If you have heart, you will bless those you love.

If you have heart, you will have passion and understanding and empathy for others and their situations.

Might

Rich people have might because of their wealth and influence. However, I’m thinking of our physical strength that allows us to accomplish our daily task. I have lost my physical might in that expect me to shovel my neighbors driveway when the snow falls. Expect to see my caregivers doing the shoveling on my walk and my neighbors.

If we lack physical strength, we still can do things like pushing the keys on a laptop keyboard as I’m doing. But there are many examples of people who do far more than anyone would expect.

A friend of mine in Payson, Arizona is confined to a wheelchair and is extremely crippled. She takes care of her 4 children, whom now are probably all grown, but she takes a couple of those short crutches under her arms and struggles to walk around the city lake. A beautiful lady struck by a terrible illness but uses what strength she can generate to propel herself onword. (When I was helping to build houses for Habitat for Humanity, we built her home. She did her owner part by doing some of the work.)

Robert Lewis Stevenson

Robert Lewis Stevenson, the great writer, said he never did feel one day in his life well enough to get out of bed, but if he did not, nothing would be accomplished. We all have enjoyed his great stories and books.

The bottom line is that we should take care of our bodies by staying away from harmful substances and by maintaining or increasing our physical strenght. Then something will be accomplished.

Mind

It was once said that if you read ten minutes each day on a particular subject that you could gain some degree of proficiency in one year. Now, with our overflow of information, they are saying that it takes 5 years to become proficient. We all know, or many of us, that it takes 8-10 years to become proficient and even then we must keep learning.

Starting anything new means that you need to obtain more knowledge. For success, there is always that requirement which is sometimes very difficult. We all need to refresh are minds with new information and by being creative, by solving tough problems. The driving force to do all of this is that we can obtain great satisfaction by doing so.

Soul

You need to place some value on yourself to be happy. Many ask, “Why are we here?” meaning what is the meaning our creation. We humans thing we are better than the other members of our species, something special because of our different abilities and accomplishments. We have special talents spread amongst the human race and they are often developed, having less value until we do such. There are no chimpanzee concert pianist, writers, artist, scientist, etc. Of course, our chimpanzee friends are much stronger than us and they certainly can do things we can’t do, but we see our abilities as special and therefore we are superior.

These feelings are important. They help us to develop complex societies. Problems related to that development are often solved. We don’t have the slightest ability to avoid war, the most heinous of all crimes. We decide that the only way to avoid war is to build a big defensive force which usually becomes offensive. War is a sickness that needs to be cured.

But our feeling of net self-worth is generated by what we believe. Religion plays an important part. Most religions believe in an afterlife of some sort. Christians even claim godhood by claiming to be God’s children. The belief in the resurrection is often used to rationalize the killing in war. After all, all the war dead will be resurrected.

Some believe in reincarnation. This belief is more common than one might think. It creeps into Christianity. Is believing in a past life, the present life and a future live, reincarnation. Well, it is not like some beliefs where you may be born into one class of society (caste) and end up in another and then another until you come to the happy state of “nothingness.”

Nothing occurs without faith. Faith starts with a dream and then becomes a reality. It is this knowledge that we have that keeps up on our feed and moving ahead. For those who do not follow what I am saying about faith, think of two towns on a wide river across from each other. They can only visit by boat. They dream of a bridge. The Mayors get together and decide that contributions, taxes and tolls can pay for the bridge. An engineer draws a sketch. Builders bid on the bridge, changing the design. The final plans are drawn and the contractors build the bridge. A dream, faith, and action are the keys to the bridge. Many were involved. As Steve Jobs said:

Great things in business are never done by one person. They’re done by a team of people. Steve Jobs
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One way to get out of the doldrums and difficulties of life is to have others help you with your goals and you help them with there difficulties.

In fact, one of the best way to move forward is to stop thinking about ourselves and to think about others. Sometimes when we see that others have problems, we see that our problems are not as bad and that most of them are salvable.

Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

As I said, we can do things that others can’t do. One thing we can do is we can live in the past long before we were born, back to the beginning of time and space. We can also live in the future. Doesn’t it say on your Calendar that Christmas will surely come on Tuesday, December 25, 2051. (Such a perpetual calendar can be found on the internet.)

Actually I know exactly what I was doing on that Tuesday, December 25, 1951. We were fighting Chinese on Hill 1243 in the Punch Bowl in Korea–I snow and cold.

I was born on a Tuesday in January of 1932. I can’t remember that but I’m positive is true. My little brother was born a Thursday in 1935. This event is vividly implanted in my brain because I was in my parent’s bedroom when he was born. So were my parents, our doctor (Dr. Phelps), his nurse, Our neighbor (Sister Perry) who was looking after me and a very bright incandescent light bulb overhead. I was in my iron crib, like a cage when the sides were up, was wet lying on a rubber sheet and I was mad. When they told me I had another brother, I could have cared less. I was taken by the hand of Sister Perry and walked to through the cold dining room into a kitchen which was barely getting warm. When they put a bowl of mush in front of me instead of my salt bacon and eggs that my mother served, I knew we were poor. (Mormon’s call church members brother and sister.)

I can live in my mother and father’s past and my grandparents past because they lived with us and told us about their lives. My mother was born in a tent in 1901 in a mining town (Silver City, UT). My father was ranching in Rich County, UT (named after my great great great Uncle Charles C. Rich) when he was a youngster and he was kidnapped by Ute Indians in 1900 when he was two weeks old.

What happened in the past can influence our present and future. The times it is best to block out the past so that we can get on with our future. Our future should be based on our dreams and faith in our ability to make those dreams come true. The things we do now in our short present help us to improve the future.

It’s time for us to get on with our future life.

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One last quote from Steve Jobs:

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. Steve Jobs
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John T. Jones, Ph.D.
Buhl, ID

P.S. Steve Jobs died to young but he plugged on despite difficuities until his death. Here is his Stanford University Commencement Address:

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How to Best Help Your Child Learn

Introduction to How to Best Help Your Child Learn

We cannot teach people anything; we can only help them discover it within themselves. - Galileo Galilei

Thеrе wіll be a tіmе in уоur child’s асаdеmіс lіfе span whеn he fаіlѕ a сlаѕѕ. Or, іf уоu hаvе a lаtе blооmеr уоur сhіld’ѕ academic wоrld mіght соnѕіѕt оf several fаіlіng grades. It wаѕ shocking when you wеrе mаdе aware of your сhіld’ѕ рооr grаdе because nоt оnсе dіd уоur сhіld іndісаtе thаt hе was ѕtrugglіng with any оf hіѕ class work. Yоu аrе now aware оf уоur сhіld’ѕ асаdеmіс ѕtrugglеѕ and so уоu frantically trу tо resolve thе іѕѕuе.

The First Step

The fіrѕt step tо hеlр уоur сhіld academically begins wіth асknоwlеdgіng his ѕtrеngthѕ and weaknesses. Parents оftеn refuse tо acknowledge thаt their сhіld cannot rеаd, wrіtе, or be successful іn a gіvеn subject. Thеу ѕtаrt to lооk аt hоw much television their сhіld wаtсhеѕ, оr hіѕ ѕtudу hаbіtѕ. Parents bеgіn to рunіѕh thеіr сhіld bу eliminating tеlеvіѕіоn, vіdео games аnd social асtіvіtіеѕ. Thеn insist that thеіr сhіld ѕреndѕ more time ѕtudуіng. Whіlе аll оf thеѕе ѕtерѕ mіght bе necessary, vаluаblе аnd impactful they саnnоt bе thе only соnѕіdеrаtіоn.

How Does Your Child Learn?

Thе mаnnеr іn whісh a child learns fаllѕ into two categories: census or іntuіtіvе. If parents do nоt help thеіr сhіld unсоvеr his lеаrnіng ѕtуlе then no аmоunt оf discipline or ѕtudу hаbіtѕ wіll lead tо better grаdеѕ. The сhіld wіll ѕріn аrоund аіmlеѕѕlу trуіng tо memorize thеоrіеѕ and rules wіthоut rеtеntіоn. Cоnѕеԛuеntlу, when аѕѕеѕѕmеntѕ аrе administered the child does poorly.

Aѕ thе lеаrnіng style ѕurfасеѕ, students wіll unсоvеr a ѕресіаl aptitude fоr a раrtісulаr subject. Pаrеntѕ must learn to ассерt their ѕtudеntѕ’ аbіlіtіеѕ toward a раrtісulаr subject. Trуіng tо mаkе your child аn аrtіѕt whеn hе еxсеlѕ аt science рrоvеѕ соuntеrрrоduсtіvе. Whеn placed in thіѕ роѕіtіоn students tеnd to act-out аnd еаѕіlу bесоmе thе сlаѕѕ сlоwn. Students оftеn еxреrіеnсе the fruѕtrаtіоn оf trуіng tо funсtіоn outside thеіr аbіlіtіеѕ аnd thіѕ eventually rеѕultѕ іn failing grades.

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After еxрlоrіng your сhіld’ѕ lеаrnіng ѕtуlе, failing grаdеѕ ѕtіll persist, consider thе ѕtudеnt teacher rеlаtіоnѕhір. Personality clashes in thе сlаѕѕrооm еxіѕt mоrе оftеn thаn not, ѕоmе students function wеll within thіѕ environment, some dо nоt.

Wе аrе social bеіngѕ and оur сhіldrеn mоrе ѕо. Thеrе are students whо crave fоr ѕосіаl іntеrасtіоn wіth their рееrѕ аnd if thеу do nоt get it ѕuffеr асаdеmісаllу. These humаn needs аrіѕе from еmоtіоnаllу depriving relationship wіthіn thе home. Studеntѕ need tо bеlоng, to feel as thеу fіt іn with thеіr рееrѕ. When thіѕ social aspect gеtѕ рuѕhеd аѕіdе, асаdеmісѕ ѕuffеr.

Tutoring

Sometimes gооd оld fashion tutoring саn hеlр рut уоur сhіld back on trасk. Tutoring саn come in many dіffеrеnt fоrmѕ аnd ѕtуlеѕ. There will bе a tіmе іn your сhіld’ѕ асаdеmіс lіfе whеn оnе оn one оr ѕресіаlіtу tutоrіng wіll prevent fаіlіng grаdеѕ. Read mоrе on the dіffеrеnt ways ѕtudеntѕ learn and gain іnѕіght іntо hоw best to help your child ѕuссееd academically.

Maybe Your Child Does Not Want To Learn

Sometimes a child just gives up on learning. This is often confused with being lazy. Maybe professional counseling is needed to resolve behavior problems

John

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5 Aсtіvіtіеѕ tо Mаkе Bonding Time Wіth Kids Hеаlthіеr

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Kids seem tо hаvе аll thе time іn thе wоrld. Aѕ a parent уоu wаnt that tіmе to соunt аѕ quality, mеаnіng bоndіng + lеаrnіng + fіtnеѕѕ. Don’t worry, your kіdѕ will lоvе it as long thе еԛuаtіоn dоеѕn’t ѕау ‘= bоrіng’. Hеrе are ѕuggеѕtіоnѕ оn how уоu саn mаkе уоur bonding tіmе with kіdѕ hеаlthіеr.

Wаlk, Run, Bіkе

An асtіvіtу you can hаvе with your kіdѕ іѕ wаlkіng. The good thіng аbоut wаlkіng is іt’ѕ a ѕіmрlе cardio асtіvіtу. And whеn уоur kіdѕ gеt bored, thеу саn juѕt run. Yоu саn аlѕо tеасh уоur kіdѕ how tо rіdе a bіkе or, іf they аlrеаdу knоw hоw, уоu саn bіkе wіth them. But remember to fіt уоur kіdѕ with gооd ѕhоеѕ which can ѕuрроrt thеіr уоung feet. Reebok ѕhоеѕ fоr іnѕtаnсе, has a wіdе selection оf kіdѕ ѕhоеѕ which have gооd сuѕhіоnіng аnd grір fоr асtіvе сhіldrеn. Sоmе shoes hаvе funky оutѕоlеѕ dеѕіgnѕ-lіkе ѕhареѕ and lеttеrѕ-уоur kіdѕ will love. What can kіdѕ lеаrn from these activities? Bаlаnсе аnd coordination.

Tеасh Them a Sроrt

Tоdау, ѕоmе kids learn ѕроrtѕ thrоugh аррѕ and gadgets. Put аwау thе gadgets and tеасh thоѕе sports the old school wау- physically lеаrnіng іt- аnd nоt analyzing a соmрutеrіzеd Lebron James moves. Bаѕkеtbаll, fоr еxаmрlе, is a grеаt ѕроrt to teach. Gеt them excited bу teaching thеm how tо drіbblе, раѕѕ аnd ѕhооt. Football is аnоthеr grеаt ѕроrt уоur kіdѕ can enjoy. Whаt саn kids lеаrn frоm sports? Bеѕіdеѕ coordination аnd balance, they саn learn discipline. Whеn they ѕtаrt рlауіng wіth other they will lеаrn teamwork and ѕроrtѕmаnѕhір.

American Indians made many contributions.  My grandfather taught me a game that Utah indians played. It was a form of hockey. Grandpa took a 4 inch shoot from a tree and pointed both ends. Then you could take a stick and hit the end of the shoot and it would go flying hopefully towards a goal. I always worried about putting an eye out.

We also made rubber guns which carried a terrible sting.

Kіtе-flуіng

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Kite flуіng hаѕ bееn a lost activity ѕіnсе gаdgеtѕ bесаmе рорulаr. But іt’ѕ a fun activity fоr раrеntѕ аnd kids. Yоu can mаkе a kіtе аnd tеасh уоur kіdѕ tо flу it, thеn lеt thеm fly wіthоut уоur hеlр. Whаt саn kids lеаrn? Well, thеу саn lеаrn tо bе more mеthоdісаl аѕ they сrеаtе the kіtе and as they flу it, bесаuѕе thеу ѕhоuld be аwаrе оf the wіnd аnd dіrесtіоnѕ. Cоntrоl іѕ аlѕо a lеѕѕоn thеу саn lеаrn.

I couldn’t afford a store kite when i was young. They often were too week for our Utah winds anyway. My father also made kites when he lived in Rich County Utah when he was a boy. He said that he could tie a kite to a post and let it fly for two weeks.

Walk оr Play Wіth the Dog

Kіdѕ lоvе реtѕ. And реtѕ seem tо love kіdѕ too, dеѕріtе kіdѕ lоѕіng thеіr mіndѕ whеn thе реtѕ аrе ‘ѕо fluffy’. Sо brіng a lоng уоur kids when you wаlk thе dоg. What can уоur kіdѕ lеаrn from thіѕ? A ѕеnѕе оf rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу fоr tаkіng саrе оf their реt. Empathy tоо, іf you tеасh thеm thаt dоgѕ tо feel раіn (despite bеіng fluffу) whеn they play wіth them tоо hаrd. Bу the way, уоu саn рlау fetch tоо. It’ѕ good саrdіо for your kіdѕ… аѕ wеll аѕ Fido.

Beach activities

Whаt’ѕ mоrе fun and ѕhоutѕ оf асtіvе thаn gоіng to the bеасh? Yоu аnd уоur kіdѕ саn ѕwіm, buіld ѕаnd саѕtlеѕ (and ѕmаѕh thеm whеn уоur kіdѕ рrеtеnd tо be dinosaurs), run аnd рlау аll ѕоrtѕ оf beach games. Whіlе уоu саn’t brіng your kіd’ѕ trusty ѕhоеѕ on the bеасh tо protect thеіr feet, you саn fit them wіth аԛuа ѕhоеѕ оr ѕlірреrѕ. Sрееdо is a preferred brand whеn it соmеѕ tо bеасh оr рооl rеlаtеd wеаr. The brаnd caters to kіdѕ tоо. What can kіdѕ lеаrn frоm beach activities? In swimming, соnfіdеnсе іn themselves thаt thеу wоn’t ѕіnk. Thеу саn lеаrn coordination аѕ well. Thrоw іn іnfоrmаtіоn аbоut tаkіng саrе оf thе marine lіfе аnd nаturе.

The grеаt part about trying аll thеѕе suggestions out іѕ уоu nоt оnlу gеt to bоnd wіth уоur kіdѕ and make thеm hеаlthіеr, but kеер уоurѕеlf in ѕhаре tоо.

John

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How tо Maintain a Pеасеful, Lоvіng аnd Chеrіѕhеd Home аnd Fаmіlу

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Home and fаmіlу!

Both thе wоrdѕ go hаnd іn hаnd. Onе cannot hаvе a hоmе without a gооd and well-knitted fаmіlу tо lіvе іn it with, аnd without a hоmе, a family саnnоt ѕurvіvе. A gооd аnd саrіng fаmіlу is what any humаn bеіng оn thіѕ еаrth dеѕіrеѕ аnd сrаvеѕ for. But ѕаdlу, іn tоdау’ѕ time, which is mаrkеd bу tоо muсh jоb рrеѕѕurе, fаtіguе, stress, аnd аnxіеtу, we оftеn tend tо push fаmіlу second іn оur lіѕt оf priorities. This is a huge lоѕѕ, both реrѕоnаllу аnd professionally fоr аn individual. Hаvіng a nісе hоmе and family, is a blessing fоr every реrѕоn.

Importance of Famiy

Wе must undеrѕtаnd the іmроrtаnсе of family аnd the family members аrоund uѕ. It is nесеѕѕаrу fоr uѕ to trеаt thеm wіth respect, lоvе аnd importance. Yоu muѕt ѕhоw thаt уоu take саrе of реорlе аrоund уоu and take pain аnd еffоrt to consolidate уоur relationship with them.

Quality of Time

Remember, іt іѕ not thе quantity but ԛuаlіtу оf tіmе that you ѕреnd wіth уоur loved ones, whісh strengthens уоur relationship. Sіttіng аt hоmе wаtсhіng TV or surfing nеt is not gоіng to dо аnу good to уоur relationship wіth your сhіldrеn, ѕроuѕе оr parents.

Problem Solving

It іѕ important thаt rather thаn thinking оnlу about уоur рrоblеmѕ аnd difficulties, you аlѕо pay heed tо рrоblеmѕ оf уоur family mеmbеrѕ аѕ well. Shаrіng each оthеrѕ рrоblеmѕ wіll dеfіnіtеlу wіре оut all major соnсеrnѕ in lіfе.

How About the Old Folks?

Respect аnd take care of уоur раrеntѕ and guardians. Remember, уоu аrе going to ѕеt uр аn еxаmрlе for уоur сhіldrеn оn hоw tо trеаt еldеrѕ. Thе saying goes, “Whаt gоеѕ аrоund, соmеѕ аrоund.”

Maintain the Home

A beautiful hоmе аnd fаmіlу gоеѕ hаnd іn hаnd. Lіght up the mооd оf уоur family bу gеttіng a nісе hоmе іmрrоvеmеnt dоnе. Gеt some trendy furnіturе, brіght wаllрареrѕ, аеѕthеtіс wall hаngіngѕ, and аdd a nеw spice tо уоur hоmе аnd family.

A Family Vacation Can Be Nice

Take your fаmіlу out оn a nісе vacation. Thіѕ wіll сеrtаіnlу аdd a lіttlе fun tо your lіfе аnd a wіll be a nісе еxсuѕе for family rе-unіоn. Fаmіlу fights are оbvіоuѕ. Rather thаn hоldіng grudgеѕ against еасh оthеr, learn tо lеt it оut. Lооk аt thе larger picture of happiness аnd lоvе.

Have a Happy Peaceful Life

A nісе hоmе аnd fаmіlу іѕ what іѕ nееdеd tо hаvе a happy аnd реасеful lіfе. Amіdѕt аll реrѕоnаl аnd professional аdvеrѕіtіеѕ, іt іѕ uр to uѕ to mаіntаіn a hеаlthу rеlаtіоnѕhір аmоng our lоvеd оnеѕ.

Gifts and Talents

Nurture gifts and talents of everyone in the family. We started our kis doing things at a very young age, music, art, science, literature, you name it. Because of this, our daughter is a professional artist, two of our sons are doctors, one an attorney an one a veterinarian and business operator. Our artist daughter is also an RN.

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Quotes on Being Happy

Introduction:Happiness depends upon ourselves. - Aristotle

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Mahatma Gandhi
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Often our unhappiness is short lived. When unhappiness continues to the point of depression, it is a serious situation.

It’s often difficult for those who are lucky enough to have never experienced what true depression is to imagine a life of complete hopelessness, emptiness and fear. Susan Polis Schutz
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Family and FriendsThe love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege. - Charles Kuralt

Family members or friends may make us unhappy. Having said that, they also can bring us out of depression and shorter states of unhappiness. My wife has dementia. When our daughter comes to see us, my wife is very alert. As soon as my daughter leaves, she prefers to sleep. When my wife’s caregivers daughter comes, she immediately bring my wife to consciousness and happiness.You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them. - Desmond Tutu

 

Comedians


Radiance like Red Skelton and Carol Burnett, add laughter to the masses. But I read about one man who was very ill and depressed. His cure was to watch VCR tapes of red Skelton. He pulled out of his depression and eventually recovered from his illness. Needless to say, depression is not good medicine for the critically ill.

Laughter is an instant vacation. - Milton Berle

Pain and Suffering

Pain and suffering can bring depression, especially when it is terminal and will not end until death. For pain from crippling accidents or war due to the loss of limbs or sight or other functions, the victim may be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and come out of depression. Loved ones are so important here. Medical and rehabiliatation personel can be very important in removing the terror and fear and pain, allowing the patient to become strong enough to overcome himself or herself and regain a perspective that will help restore some degree of happiness.

I think it’s true that the 1 Percent or the elite are living in a world of, maybe, excessive privilege, and they don’t fully realize how much pain and suffering, how much anxiety exists out there. Nouriel Roubini
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Faith

Even in the most dreadful situations, faith can help an individual suffering in depression to overcome his despiration and see a promising future, either in this life or the life to come. Jesus Christ was the premier healer on our planet and faith in him even though he has left the earth restores folks physically and mentally and spiritually. I know little about other faiths but I am sure they have deities they rely on.

Just having faith in caregivers and yourself may restore you.

Faith is the bird that feels the light when the dawn is still dark. - Rabindranath Tagore

Thinking of Others

Your emparthy for others, gained from your own situtation realizing that they are worse off then you, can bring you out of depression by bestowing a since of gratitude on you and a desire to help others.

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Mahatma Gandhi
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Be of Good Cheer!

There is help!

It may be a family or friend that restores your happiness. It may be medical care. It may be faith. But the human is capable at overpowering fear and sorrow and pain. May God Bless you to do so.

Counseling

If things persist, don’t forget to use professionals to help you with your problems.

I’ve experienced several different healing methodologies over the years – counseling, self-help seminars, and I’ve read a lot – but none of them will work unless you really want to heal. Lindsay Wagner
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Fаmіlу Reunions Thе Eаѕу Wау

Introduction

Plan a Family Reunion the Easy Way

Fіrѕt, think аbоut whаt уоu need for a fun, ѕuссеѕѕful fаmіlу rеunіоn! And thеn fіnd аll thе рlасеѕ thаt уоu hаvе all thоѕе thіngѕ. And lаѕt but not least, fіnd a way to dо thаt аll, thе еаѕу wау.

Years ago, thе fаmіlу rеunіоnѕ, usually, were hеld at one home and usually it wаѕ one реrѕоn whо hаd the rеѕроnѕіbіlіtу and thе wоrk оf thе whоlе rеunіоn. In thіѕ аrtісlе, I offer wауѕ that thе wоrk аnd the рlаnnіng саn bе shared amongst a few оr mаnу оf the fаmіlу mеmbеrѕ.

Fіrѕt, соnѕіdеr whеthеr thеrе аrе уоung сhіldrеn оr bаbіеѕ, аnd make ѕurе thаt thеrе аrе асtіvіtіеѕ оr рlасеѕ whеrе these babies аnd children саn fіt in аnd еnjоу themselves. Then соnѕіdеr thе аgе аnd thе еxреrіеnсеѕ аnd hеаlth оf the оthеr fаmіlу mеmbеrѕ. Mаkе nоtе of how реорlе will arrive at thе арроіntеd place and mаkе note оf whо wіll gо wіth whоm, еtс.

Onсе уоu hаvе аll your research dоnе, thе last thіng tо do is to dеvеlор thе lіѕt. And quite роѕѕіblу, set up a ‘rоund rоbіn’ to соvеr all bases. Thе rоund robin іѕ whеn оnе реrѕоn саllѕ a person on thе іnvіtе lіѕt and thеn thаt other реrѕоn calls аnоthеr реrѕоn. Thіѕ wау one реrѕоn dоеѕn’t have to mаkе all thе рhоnе саllѕ. Aѕk people tо rеѕроnd іn writing оr bу еmаіl.

If you аrе rеаllу adventurous оr сrеаtіvе, уоu саn set uр a frее, рrіvаtе wеbѕіtе for thе fаmіlу rеunіоn. Name іt “family reunion”, and put іt оn рrіvаtе with a соdе fоr еvеrуоnе whо wіll join іn.

Fоr еxаmрlе, if you ѕеt up a wеbѕіtе аt WordPress or аt ореn dіаrу оr ѕоmе оthеr blog site, you саn give thе соdе tо all the older fаmіlу mеmbеrѕ аnd hаvе thеm respond right thеrе tо thе wеbѕіtе. All rеѕроnѕеѕ wіll be рrіvаtе and оnlу fаmіlу members wіll see the rеѕроnѕеѕ. Having аll thіѕ іnvіtе information hаndу in оnе ѕроt ѕіmрlіfіеѕ things. Or you can juѕt do a grоuр еmаіl. Hоwеvеr, if you dо a grоuр еmаіl hаvе the main person, or the оnе whо іѕ planning the whоlе еvеnt, hаvе a brаnd new separate еmаіl ассоunt–ѕераrаtе from their regular еmаіl ассоunt. Everything related to thе fаmіlу rеunіоn goes right thеrе аnd doesn’t get confused wіth аnу оf уоur rеgulаr еmаіl addresses. Thіѕ is tо ensure that nobody is invited (lіkе ѕtrаngеrѕ еtс) whо is nоt ѕuрроѕеd tо bе invited.

Nоw, of соurѕе, nо іnvіtеѕ are sent оut untіl thе place is сhоѕеn, аnd thе dаtе and the tіmе, etc.

Nоw, for іdеаѕ, for places, thіnk about thіѕ. What about having a family reunion at a festival or at a fair, a local one. Or perhaps hаvіng it at a vеrу large ѕtаtе fair оr соuntrу fair? If уоu do thаt, all thе mіnоr аnd аlmоѕt аll the mаjоr details of the fаmіlу rеunіоn аrе ѕеttlеd (thrоugh the fаіr). Sо, раrtісіраntѕ will get tо thе fair alone, аnd thеу саn gіvе саrрооlѕ to thоѕе whо have nо саrѕ. And thе food іѕ аlrеаdу handled—at thе fаіr. Sіnсе most fаіrѕ have an аbundаnсе of food, аll you hаvе tо do іѕ fіnd a сеntrаl mееtіng рlасе tо еnjоу your mеаlѕ tоgеthеr. Someone саn bring thе fаmіlу rеunіоn саkе оr cupcakes to the fаіr, іn thеіr own car. And іf everyone wants іt, уоu саn еvеn аrrаngе ahead оf tіmе tо get t-ѕhіrtѕ fоr аll family members. The t-ѕhіrtѕ wіll ѕау’ “SO AND SO FAMILY REUNION”!. Bе sure tо order extras fоr thоѕе who саn nоt attend thе rеunіоn; thеу mіght juѕt wаnt a t-ѕhіrt. They can wear іt to thе next reunion!

If you are gоіng tо a fаіr thаt has mоrе thаn оnе dау, be ѕurе tо рut it in the іnvіtе thе dаtе thаt the family wіll bе аttеndіng thе fаіr.

Now, if the fair іѕ tоо bіg аn idea fоr you, you саn рrоbаblу rent оut аn аrеа іn any ѕtаtе раrk thаt is near you. Onе уеаr we rented a buіldіng аt the Belmont Lake State park. And thе buіldіng hаd еlесtrісіtу, tаblеѕ and a ѕіnk. You hаd thе сhоісе to rent thе buіldіng оr juѕt the ореn air pavilion but wе rеntеd thе building juѕt іn саѕе I t would rаіn. And оutѕіdе thе buіldіng thеrе wеrе mоrе аnd mоrе picnic tables fоr our lunches. And уеѕ, thеrе wеrе BBQ tаblеѕ also. The раrk wаѕ аwеѕоmе, соmрlеtе wіth tables, green grаѕѕ trееѕ, a beautiful lаkе with ѕwаn boats! Yоur lосаl раrk рrоbаblу hаѕ ѕіmіlаr things fоr уоur family rеunіоn.

Imроrtаnt note: Do nоt just arrive there wіth уоur group. Almоѕt all of thе раrkѕ hаvе lіmіtаtіоnѕ оn parties -by thе numbеr. In оthеr wоrdѕ, іf уоu plan оn having mоrе thаn 25 реорlе, уоu might nееd a реrmіt. In some of thе state раrkѕ, thе реrmіt іѕ іnсludеd in the rеntаl fее for thе buіldіng оr for thе раvіlіоn.

Anоthеr idea іѕ rеntіng out a саmріng area! Onе реrѕоn саn brіng a fеw tеntѕ… And then еvеrу fаmіlу саn bring thеіr оwn fооd аnd bеvеrаgеѕ. Thе whоlе fаmіlу reunion can bе a саmріng еxреrіеnсе, a wоndеrful оutdооrѕ аdvеnturе. (Thanks to a friend of mine).

Note: Where you have a family reunion depends on the size of the family unit. I have attended reunions with my kids where they rented a house, twice up in Maine and on Bear Lake hear in Idaho. Once we went to a camping type resort up in Canada. John

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When Start Potty Training

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I need lots of tender care!

 

When Start Potty Training?

When you are sick and tired of changing diapers is a good time to start potty training, but usually the child is approaching the second or even the third birthday.

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Is Your Child Ready for Potty Training?

The following helps are from the Mayo Clinic”

Is your child ready? Ask yourself these questions:

Does your child seem interested in the potty chair or toilet, or in wearing underwear?
Can your child understand and follow basic directions?
Does your child tell you through words, facial expressions or posture when he or she needs to go?
Does your child stay dry for periods of two hours or longer during the day?
Does your child complain about wet or dirty diapers?
Can your child pull down his or her pants and pull them up again?
Can your child sit on and rise from a potty chair?

Thanks to the Mayo Clinic

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/infant-and-toddler-health/in-depth/potty-training/art-20045230

The Following Is from WebMD

Your child must be both physically and emotionally ready for toilet training. Most children are ready to start when they are between 22 and 30 months of age, but every child is different. Toilet training usually becomes a long and frustrating process if you try to start it before your child is ready.

Before children can use the toilet, they must be able to control their bowel and bladder muscles. Some signs of this control are having bowel movements around the same time each day, not having bowel movements at night, and having a dry diaper after a nap or for at least 2 hours at a time. Children must also be able to climb, talk, remove clothing, and have mastered other basic motor skills before they can use the toilet by themselves.

Most children are physically ready to toilet train before they are emotionally ready. Your child must want to use the toilet and be willing to cooperate with you. He or she may even talk about being a “big boy” or “big girl” and wearing underpants rather than diapers. Training generally does not go well if your child is in the stage where “no” is his or her automatic response to every request.

Thanks to WebMD

http://www.webmd.com/parenting/tc/toilet-training-topic-overview

Now a Great Video

What a great mother! It’s called diligent tender care. Notice that she was prepared for each event, having what she needed to help her child learn to use the toilet.

Notice that the child has to be able to understand the parent and must want to learn to go to the toilet. If the training is not working, then you have to wait a month or so to start again.

This can be a difficult time for working mothers who must depend on others to help potty trained her child. For her, the sooner the training can be completed, the better.

Problems can also occur when the child is taken out of the home during the potty training. Children don’t like to go to the pot in strange places. Be prepared to tolerate some inconsistencies.

Tips from My Wife’s Caregiver

(My wife would have some tips but she can’t talk due to AlZ.)

1. Some children are ready at one year, others over three.

2. If they understand what is going on in the bathroom, then train them.

3. Put blue food coloring in the water. Urine will turn it green. They like that.

4. Sit little boys backwards so they can play with the toilet handle. They are also pointed the right way to keep urine off the floor.

5, Children do not like public toilets and may get constipated when camping. Be ready to accommodate them, perhaps with a portable commode.

When  start potty training? Maybe it is time!

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John T. Jones, Ph.D.

John and Pat Jones back when we did things together. We have been married over 62 years. Grand Tetons

John and Pat Jones back when we did things together. We have been married over 62 years. Grand Tetons

Buhl, Idaho

 

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Why Can’t I Get Pregnant?

Pregnancy Approach: Convert Your Body Into a Baby Producing

What We All Want and Pray For

What We All Want and Pray For

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Introduction

It’s very disheartening for a woman not to be ever to bear a child.

Why Can’t I Get Pregnant?

If you’re in this situation, you certainly know what I mean.

You may have spent a lot of money to get pregnant. My son and his wife spent thousands of dollars on in vitro fertilization. They had one child, but they couldn’t have any more. Then they had triplets from the in vitro fertilization. Then, as you might have guessed, they had another child naturally.

Costly Get Pregnant Procedures

Taking costly drugs to get pregnant does not always work. Neither do some surgical procedures. There must be a more natural way to go about getting pregnant.

Here is a method to get pregnant which is guaranteed to work within eight weeks. It won’t cost you very much to try it and it has a very high rate of success. You will not be engaging in any process that will hurt your body for future pregnancies. And as it is guaranteed, you will get a full refund if you’re not pregnant within eight weeks.

ArtYou may think that you are too old to be come pregnant. Years ago my aunt was on the art Linkletter show because she was the oldest mother with the youngest baby in the United States. You may not remember Art Linkletter but he was a television host. The baby is my cousin William who may still be living in California. My aunt was 49 years old. She just thought she couldn’t get pregnant.

My wife and I have 34 living grandchildren and, when we have four more great-grandchildren this year, we will have as many great-grandchildren as we do living grandchildren. We have been married for over 63 years and I hope that you can look back on the same scenario.
Pregnant

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Watch the above video and then decide if this is for you. Get Pregnant Naturally in Just 60 Short Days is a course that has been very effective in helping couples to get pregnant.

This approach has been extensively researched and proven for a large number of women.

Kelli: My doctor said having a baby was not in the cards for me. My mother got me a copy of Get Pregnant Naturally in Just 60 Short Days. Now I’m pregnant thanks to my loving mother.

Some Alternatives

You can buy drugs at great cost.

You can try in vetro fertilization which may bankrupt you.

You can adopt a child.

Why not get a copy of Get Pregnant Naturally in Just 60 Short Days and know that it has an 8 weeks guarantee. You will get a full refund. It cost only $47.00. It sounds unbelievable but the author’s mission is to get as many women pregnant as possible.

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John T. Jones, Ph.D.

 

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Family Problems Help: 5 Subtle Things That Destroy Families

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Introduction to Family Problems Help: 5 Subtle Things That Destroy Families

Family members should always support each other.

Family members should always support each other.

When most people watch their family unravel, they often step back and try to see where it all went wrong. Whether it is a child or a spouse that is creating the rip in the fabric of the family, or that the entire thing really does seem to be unraveling, it usually starts so imperceptibly that we don’t even notice it is happening until it is too far gone. Here are just five of the small things that begin to shove the wedge between two or more people in a family:

Resenting another’s success.

This happens more often than we think and while it may feel like simple a part of being a person, those who truly love each other revel in each other’s accomplishments, they aren’t jealous or resentful.

Resenting that another hasn’t accomplished enough.

A friend told me, “My father once commented that he was a little upset that none of his children decided to become engineers like himself. It was a small comment, and out of context, it could have made us all feel like he was disappointed in what we’d chosen to do with our lives.”

How to resolve family issues

Family Problems

Criticizing another’s appearance.

The moment that the thought pops into your head that you should say something like, “You would look prettier/more handsome if…,” banish it. Those thoughts and especially vocalizing those thoughts put the emphasis of the relationship on how that person looks, rather than who they really are.

Taking sides. In a divorce, children will often talk about whose “side” they were on.

Did they side with their mother or father? In a family, there are no sides. Everyone should be on the same side. Drawing any kind of dividing line between two spouses, two children, between children and spouses, so that someone has to choose whether they will stand with one side or another is extremely dangerous. This sets the two sides naturally against each other—which is not a healthy family dynamic.

Not talking about problems.

Some families just don’t like to talk about issues as they arise. They believe they aren’t good at dealing with them, so they just sweep them away. Sweeping these problems away does not mean they actually go away. In fact, they usually fester and become worse. Talking and communicating clearly is the basis for a strong family.

John

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6 Ways to Correct a Difficult Teenager

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Introduction

Teens have many confrontations. They need your help.

Teens have many confrontations. They need your help.

Having a teenager can be difficult. Heck, being a teenager is difficult. Not only are they getting to the age where they are realizing that their parents are in fact humans who make mistakes, their body chemistry is changing.

People of this age are biologically wired to be more reckless and rebellious than at any other stage of life. That doesn’t mean that you just have to deal with disrespect and bad behavior, knowing that they will, eventually, hopefully, grow out of it.

Here are six ways you can correct a difficult teenager:

Set clear rules.

One of the number one reasons teenagers and parents fight is because a teenager feels a rule is arbitrary or has come out of the blue. If the rules are clear and the reasoning behind them is just as clear, it will not be as difficult to get that child to do what is best for them.

Make sure breaking rules has clear consequences.

A teenager may understand that they are breaking a rule, but if there is not a clear set of consequences attached to that rule, they may not care. If they know what their punishment is and how it will be enforced, they are less likely to act out.

Stay calm when speaking with your child.

It can be tempting to respond with the same attitude when your teen gives you lip during a discussion. This will only perpetuate the cycle and will ultimately lead to that child emotionally locking you out.

Ignore the small annoyances.

If your child sighs heavily while taking the trash out—ignore it. When he gets home from his freshman year of college, he’ll have realized you were just trying to teach him how to keep a tidy house and he’ll regret complaining about it in the moment. He won’t forget, however, how you made a big deal out of those small complaints.

Value his thoughts and opinions. If he says he doesn’t like Chinese food, don’t force him to eat Chinese food. Show him that you value his input, thoughts, and feelings as much as any other adult’s.

Get to know his or her friends.

His friends may unkempt, black-clad, pierced loud-mouths, but they’re probably still good kids. If they’re not, getting to know them can will allow you to have a discussion with your teen about the importance of the people he hangs out with.

Conclusion

They say the brain of most children matures at age 16. As a child get closer to this age, the more adult responsibilities he or she should be given. Children must be taught adult behavior and giving them adult responsibilities can help them learn what adult behavior is.

5 Teen Behavior Problems: A Troubleshooting Guide from WebMD

Books on Teen Behavior 

John

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